3 Years ago today I did a fire walk - an amazing memory all I remember is water and encouraging a lady - her 14 year old daughter had done it and she thought she could never follow on.
I buddied up with her and encouraged her all the way, funny, I had no time to feel nervous myself. I enjoyed the whole experience and wished I could do it again as soon as I had finished it.
If you can walk on fire you can do anything thing is you have to remind yourself each day that this is possible and that is the hard bit. Every day tell yourself you can do anything and believe you can.
Zig Ziggler said "Motivation is like a shower you need to take it every day".
So go ahead motivate yourself each day believe you can and anything can happen.
Tuesday, 29 September 2009
Monday, 28 September 2009
4 TIPS FOR CONFIDENT FIRST TIME MEETINGS
These tips work in business and personal life.
Remember Initial Impact
90% of your impact when meeting someone for the first time is made within the first 80 seconds. Act Confident. Greet people in a positive way, SMILE and make eye contact. Hold you head up - be proud.
Make the inner voice complimentary and supportive
The most important person you will talk to is YOU. Be supportive talk to yourself like you are your own best friend - only say things you would say to another person. Learn from any mistakes you make and move on, do not dwell on issues.
Confident people learn to coach and compliment themselves every day.
Invest in your image
When you look good you feel good. People do judge a book by its cover, so choose your impression and present yourself well dressed and styled (clothes and hair) cleanliness is the order of the day.
Know your needs and communicate with confidence
People do not mind read ask for what you want - or even better listen to them and find how you can help. Listening is the most powerful tool - everyone likes a good listener.
Know your skills do not sell yourself short in business or personal issues.
KNOW WHO YOU ARE.
These tips work in business and personal life.
Remember Initial Impact
90% of your impact when meeting someone for the first time is made within the first 80 seconds. Act Confident. Greet people in a positive way, SMILE and make eye contact. Hold you head up - be proud.
Make the inner voice complimentary and supportive
The most important person you will talk to is YOU. Be supportive talk to yourself like you are your own best friend - only say things you would say to another person. Learn from any mistakes you make and move on, do not dwell on issues.
Confident people learn to coach and compliment themselves every day.
Invest in your image
When you look good you feel good. People do judge a book by its cover, so choose your impression and present yourself well dressed and styled (clothes and hair) cleanliness is the order of the day.
Know your needs and communicate with confidence
People do not mind read ask for what you want - or even better listen to them and find how you can help. Listening is the most powerful tool - everyone likes a good listener.
Know your skills do not sell yourself short in business or personal issues.
KNOW WHO YOU ARE.
Wednesday, 18 February 2009
Women should be on top!
Wait for it ... of our list.
I coach many women who put themselves after the family pet on their list. When I ask where do you come on the list it is always after the dog or cat or even rabbit! These are intelligent women often high on the management scale who when they go home become second class citizens. Some are women holding families together and studying for top class degrees.
I impress on my clients that you have to be top of your game to be the best for the others in your life. Isn’t this common sense? It is to me – although I have to say I have taken some time to realise I need to be top, I do realise it is not a natural instinct for us to put ourselves first.
One of the main reasons we do not put ourselves top is we are taught by our Mum’s that we should always put others before ourselves. That is how they were taught. I think many religious books teach the same but I still say if you are not at the top of your game being the best that you can be how can you possibly do your best for others? We have to understand and value who and what we are.
OK so how do we start to change this mind set?
Small things, repeated, make big changes.
Dishing out the dinner egg and chips (I eat high on the hog!) would you always give yourself the broken egg? Try asking “who want the broken egg?” Simple small things will change how you think about where you come on the list. To be fair I bet you don’t break an egg very often so it is no real hardship for someone else to have it now and again.
Other examples:
If you work - who helps you with the housework, washing and ironing? Are you a martyr to the cause? Do your children help? OK if they are 2 and 4 there is not much they can do but they can tidy – start them young it won’t seem like a chore it will seem like a game.
Do you cook every night? Can anyone else in the house cook? How about take away night to give you a break? I had a friend with 2 young sons 12 and 14 and a hard working hubby – she shared out the cooking nightly one of them had to take charge and produce a meal. It proved a lot of fun and she found out her eldest could cook and is now studying to be a chef. You never know what may come out of trying something to help you.
These are all household examples but I think it is the place to start you realising how important you are. It is only when you pull back that the household appreciates what you do – as long as you keep doing it they will let you.
Take time out plan your climb to the top of your list and let me know how you get on.
If you need help contact me via: http://www.carolblack4life.co.uk/
I coach many women who put themselves after the family pet on their list. When I ask where do you come on the list it is always after the dog or cat or even rabbit! These are intelligent women often high on the management scale who when they go home become second class citizens. Some are women holding families together and studying for top class degrees.
I impress on my clients that you have to be top of your game to be the best for the others in your life. Isn’t this common sense? It is to me – although I have to say I have taken some time to realise I need to be top, I do realise it is not a natural instinct for us to put ourselves first.
One of the main reasons we do not put ourselves top is we are taught by our Mum’s that we should always put others before ourselves. That is how they were taught. I think many religious books teach the same but I still say if you are not at the top of your game being the best that you can be how can you possibly do your best for others? We have to understand and value who and what we are.
OK so how do we start to change this mind set?
Small things, repeated, make big changes.
Dishing out the dinner egg and chips (I eat high on the hog!) would you always give yourself the broken egg? Try asking “who want the broken egg?” Simple small things will change how you think about where you come on the list. To be fair I bet you don’t break an egg very often so it is no real hardship for someone else to have it now and again.
Other examples:
If you work - who helps you with the housework, washing and ironing? Are you a martyr to the cause? Do your children help? OK if they are 2 and 4 there is not much they can do but they can tidy – start them young it won’t seem like a chore it will seem like a game.
Do you cook every night? Can anyone else in the house cook? How about take away night to give you a break? I had a friend with 2 young sons 12 and 14 and a hard working hubby – she shared out the cooking nightly one of them had to take charge and produce a meal. It proved a lot of fun and she found out her eldest could cook and is now studying to be a chef. You never know what may come out of trying something to help you.
These are all household examples but I think it is the place to start you realising how important you are. It is only when you pull back that the household appreciates what you do – as long as you keep doing it they will let you.
Take time out plan your climb to the top of your list and let me know how you get on.
If you need help contact me via: http://www.carolblack4life.co.uk/
Monday, 16 February 2009
Give Yourself Hope
I have just had an email form the barefoot doctor which has made me think - there again he always makes me think in anything I read of his - if you have not read anything give him a try he is most enlightening.
All my clients are looking for purpose in their life - trying to find their true calling not religion but why they are here. I tend to work with people who think outside the box before they meet me they are questioning their life and what they give and get from living.
Michael Neill talks about sitting in a comfy chair and not getting out until you know what you truly want to do. He says you have to sit there and think about what gives you the WOW factor. Then when you know you focus plan and act to make it happen. Simple isn't it?
The point to this preamble is many of us are sitting at a job Monday morning hating every minute of it - but I would bet that not one of you thinks you have choice. You have - you decide to get out of bed, go through your routine, travel to work and stay in work until finishing time.
Oh yes you do no one forces you to get out of bed you do it.
Want to make change then think about it:
What do you want to do?
What is possible right now?
How can you plan towards your ultimate goal?
What is a realistic time plan?
Who can help you?
Who do you want to go with you?
Even if you think it is all a dream write it down in a book where you can look at it in tomorrow, in a week or months time. Give yourself hope and focus on what you truly want. You never ever know what might happen or who you might meet that could help you.
No one on their death bed said "I wish I had spent more time in the office" start to plan your memories now and move towards them.
If you ask "Why should it happen to me?" change this to "Why not me?"
All my clients are looking for purpose in their life - trying to find their true calling not religion but why they are here. I tend to work with people who think outside the box before they meet me they are questioning their life and what they give and get from living.
Michael Neill talks about sitting in a comfy chair and not getting out until you know what you truly want to do. He says you have to sit there and think about what gives you the WOW factor. Then when you know you focus plan and act to make it happen. Simple isn't it?
The point to this preamble is many of us are sitting at a job Monday morning hating every minute of it - but I would bet that not one of you thinks you have choice. You have - you decide to get out of bed, go through your routine, travel to work and stay in work until finishing time.
Oh yes you do no one forces you to get out of bed you do it.
Want to make change then think about it:
What do you want to do?
What is possible right now?
How can you plan towards your ultimate goal?
What is a realistic time plan?
Who can help you?
Who do you want to go with you?
Even if you think it is all a dream write it down in a book where you can look at it in tomorrow, in a week or months time. Give yourself hope and focus on what you truly want. You never ever know what might happen or who you might meet that could help you.
No one on their death bed said "I wish I had spent more time in the office" start to plan your memories now and move towards them.
If you ask "Why should it happen to me?" change this to "Why not me?"
Thursday, 12 February 2009
Anthony Worral Thompson
I have watched with admiration Anthony W-Thompson on the news he is standing up for the catering trade and making everyone aware of the issues many catering owners/tenants are going through.
I have previously worked in catering and it is a hard trade more than a trade - it is a way of life. Oh don't get me wrong it can be so much fun and very rewarding I enjoyed much of my time running our pub/restaurant.
The fact is if we had our business now I too would be worrying that the bank would come in and ask for payment of the loan we had - that is their power to change your life.
I can understand that it is cheaper to eat and drink at home and I know that some pubs/restaurants charge too much but generally going out for a meal is good fun and very enjoyable plus no washing up!
With Valentines Day around the corner I know many of you will be going out - please remember to relax and enjoy the experience and restaurant owners look after your customers you need them to return and to recommend you.
So I wish you all a Happy Valentines and to all the wives of chefs who will be out working I wish you a pleasant evening (I know cos my hubby will be out working and I will be sat in alone again!)
Anthony keep up the good work our catering trade needs you.
I have previously worked in catering and it is a hard trade more than a trade - it is a way of life. Oh don't get me wrong it can be so much fun and very rewarding I enjoyed much of my time running our pub/restaurant.
The fact is if we had our business now I too would be worrying that the bank would come in and ask for payment of the loan we had - that is their power to change your life.
I can understand that it is cheaper to eat and drink at home and I know that some pubs/restaurants charge too much but generally going out for a meal is good fun and very enjoyable plus no washing up!
With Valentines Day around the corner I know many of you will be going out - please remember to relax and enjoy the experience and restaurant owners look after your customers you need them to return and to recommend you.
So I wish you all a Happy Valentines and to all the wives of chefs who will be out working I wish you a pleasant evening (I know cos my hubby will be out working and I will be sat in alone again!)
Anthony keep up the good work our catering trade needs you.
Starting the day can be so very hard for some people they just cannot find a reason to get out of bed.
You are alive enjoy what the day has to offer. Feeding my blackbirds and watching them from my office window starts my day. Seeing them so very busy makes me feel I should get up and move more.
No one gives the birds food or shelter they have to work for it. I often sit and ponder on the amount of times they have to fly to and from the table to get enough food and that is before they have their family!
Find something small to make your day worth while and build from there.
Carol
You are alive enjoy what the day has to offer. Feeding my blackbirds and watching them from my office window starts my day. Seeing them so very busy makes me feel I should get up and move more.
No one gives the birds food or shelter they have to work for it. I often sit and ponder on the amount of times they have to fly to and from the table to get enough food and that is before they have their family!
Find something small to make your day worth while and build from there.
Carol
Wednesday, 11 February 2009
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